10 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me a Decade Ago

Do you ever think about the things you wish someone had told you a decade ago, or when you were 20, or even last year? I do. In fact, I think it might be the basis of my next book. A book full of wisdom and hard-earned lessons that the me a decade ago would have killed for. I can see it on store shelves now… Tips and Advice That I Wish Someone Had Told Me 10 Years Ago or Random thoughts from the mind of an unlikely CEO. Yeah, the title needs work. But the sentiment rings true. Let’s start with the first 10.

10 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me

1- Always grieve the things you lose in your life. When you lose a relationship, a friendship, a job, or a dream, you must feel it. Grief won’t die just because you try and bury it. You bury it alive. And just like all things you bury alive- they will come back to haunt you.

2- You will never be 100% ready to build your business. The timing will never be perfect. The risk will never be small. Just start. You will Google your way through it.

3- It’s OK to question your faith when life seems unfair or too much. This doesn’t make you a bad Christian. It makes you human. It will build your empathy for others who will walk similar paths.

4- Other people’s opinions of you do not pay your bills.

5- Keep reading all the books. Listen to all the podcasts. Watch the lectures. Take the classes. Learn. And then learn some more. Life is better when you are not ignorant to the world around you.

6- Divorce is not the unpardonable sin. It is not the end of the story. Not by a long shot. Redemption comes when you least expect it.

7- Your capacity to forgive is bigger than you realize. That is not a weakness. It’s a gift.

8- Don’t be surprised at the relationships and people who will not be in your life a decade from now. You will not see the destruction coming but you will survive.

9- Joy comes from deep inside you. And it is deeper and more long lasting than happiness. Look for the things that spark joy and hold on to them.

10- Your passion and your calling are not mutually exhaustive. Sometimes you must pay the bills. That is not failure.

What would be advice you would give yourself a decade ago? Let me know if the comments below. Who knows maybe your tip could show up in my book someday 😉

With grace & grit,


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Raychel Perman is an Entrepreneur, Author, Speaker, Coach, and Leadership Trainer. She is the CEO of RAYMA Team, Co-host of the She Who Overcomes Podcast, and Creator of Raychel Ann Beauty. Raychel is funny, wise, and tells it like it is. She is a gifted teacher who helps people recognize and change unhealthy behaviors in unique ways. Raychel bravely shares her story of overcoming PTSD and building resilience to inspire others to believe it’s never too late to create a life they love. Raychel is a talented writer who authored the UNBROKEN Bible study and co-authored many guided journals. She married her soulmate, Josh, in 2019. Raychel lives in North Dakota with her husband, 3 children, and fur-babies, Bela & Scout.

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