UNBROKEN Summer Series: Accepting the Reality of Your Situation

“I have told you this so that through me you may have peace. In the world you’ll have trouble but be courageous – I’ve overcome the world!”

John 16:33

Have you ever walked through a storm in your life and you were the last to know? I have. You are probably thinking, “Raychel, how could you not know you were in the middle of a storm?” The storm was raging inside my own head and I did not even know it was there. Accepting the reality of my situation wasn’t happening.

I accepted the labels of crazy and angry for so long I could no longer see the truth from the lie. I was so completely clueless to my own battle in the middle of one of the worst seasons with depression, I told two of my friends, “It’s a good thing my life is under control, because you guys are falling apart!” They don’t let me live that down. It’s OK. it keeps me humble. *wink*

What is it about storms in your life that makes you think that if you ignore them they will go away?

In my experience, this has worked zero times. None. Nada. I was so used to wearing the labels I couldn’t see the truth that I wasn’t crazy…I was sick. Ignoring my depression, and believing that I really was a sad angry crazy person was only making it worse and prolonging my healing. I had to accept the reality of my situation!

A few weeks after our youngest was born I was hosting a party. At some point in the evening, I started sharing about this “event” (i.e. – panic attack) that had happened with me, a few nights earlier. As I told the women this story, I could literally see the expression on their faces change. It went from calm to horror in about three seconds flat. My mom reached over and grabbed my hand and said, “Honey, do you think you might be experiencing some postpartum depression?”

Later that night I started Googling my symptoms (because that’s the sane thing to do when you think something is wrong with you) and found Postpartum Progress. I read the stories of the Warrior Moms and cried all night. I realized I wasn’t crazy. This girl wasn’t broken beyond repair or alone. You see, I was believing a lie. A lie is a lie even if you chose to believe it. That night changed everything.

That night helped me to start accepting the reality of the storm I was walking through.

And, because I accepted the reality, I could now accept help and healing. Dear brave woman, you can’t heal what you don’t acknowledge. And it’s OK if you were the last one to realize there was a problem to fix. It happens all the time. No more guilt or shame. Let’s find healing together.

When you cannot accept the reality of your situation, you prolong the pain and the brokenness because you cannot take steps towards healing. Today, let’s explore different verses that will help you better understand the beauty of accepting a harsh reality and moving forward. These verses are beautiful promises of God meant to give you peace in the midst of uncertainty. As you look up each verse, or verses, take some time and jot down what it means to you:

  • Romans 8:37-39
  • Romans 10:9-10
  • Galatians 5:1
  • Philippians 4:13-15
  • 2 Timothy 4:17

UNBROKEN Journal Questions:

  1. What has refusing to accept the reality of a storm in your life cost you in the past? 
  2. How does accepting the reality of the broken pieces in your life benefit you in the future?
  3. Write down the Bible verse/s that meant the most to you from the previous section

When I accept the reality of the storms in my life, and the broken pieces they create, I can accept the healing I need to move forward.

Truth Statement®

With Grace & Grit,

~Raychel

P.S Don’t forget to leave a comment and tell me what you think before you leave, thanks!

Raychel Perman is a Certified Life & Business Coach, Speaker, Author, and Co-Founder of RAYMA Team, LLC. She is the Co-host of the She Who Overcomes™ Podcast and is funny, wise, and tells it like it is. Raychel shares her story of overcoming trauma and living with mental health challenges to inspire others to believe that the broken pieces of their past can lead to beauty, strength, and new beginnings.

Learn more about Raychel here.

Editors Note: At the writing of this blog post we are in the processing of formatting and editing the 2nd edition of my 30 day Bible study for women, Unbroken. In honor of the occasion I will be releasing blog posts for Summer Series that come directly from the book. If you want to be the first to know when the release happens- join our VIP email list by CLICKING HERE (and get 7 free audios to help you create a stronger mindset as our gift!)

UNBROKEN Summer Series: Choosing Courage Over Fear

I will not be afraid because the Lord is with me.

Psalm 118:6 (EXB)

I don’t know when the love you were born with was replaced by fear. Maybe your innocence was taken at a very young age. Or you learned the harsh reality of life and death before you were old enough to understand what you were going through. Or, maybe you grew up in a violent home and experienced trauma as a child. It’s possible the circumstances of your life taught you to feed your fear instead of defeat it. But, it’s time to choose courage over your fear.

Love is what you were born with, fear is what you learned.” ~Unknown

For much of my life I wore the label fear like it was my identity.

I made the choice to grow bitter and fearful because of the storms I had walked through. The broken pieces of my life made me full of fear. I was terrified of the unknown and eventually this led to: mediocrity, unfulfilled dreams, toxic relationships, missed opportunities, anxiety, panic attacks, shallow faith, depression, paralyzing doubt, feeling stuck, being unable to make decisions, and excuses. Oh the excuses.

Over the last few years I have found that the best way to defeat fear is with courage and action.

You can take action in the midst of being afraid. Because, the truth is, fear is not the same thing as being afraid. Fear will make you self-sabotage relationships when vulnerability is required for growth. Fear makes you say (or think!) things like, “I can’t,” “I don’t know how,” or “It’s never going to work out.” It keeps you stuck in excuses for years. Which will make you spin your wheels and miss out on once-in-a-life-time opportunities.

Walking forward even though we are afraid is courageous and motivating. Doing something afraid can propel you into new seasons and healing you never imagined possible.

Courage: Noun. Mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.

Merriam-Webster.com, 2011

It takes great courage to take a step of faith when you have no idea where your foot may land.

A person who embraces the cracks in her life defeats fear and walks forward…even when they are afraid. As you continue with today’s study you will learn the difference between the words “fear” and “afraid.” You will examine the different ways these words are used in the Bible and how understanding the meanings can help you better overcome the storms in your life. By the end of this study, you will be ready to muster up your courage and walk forward – even when you are afraid.

Fear: Noun. A distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid. Synonyms: foreboding, apprehension, consternation, dismay, dread, terror, fright, panic, horror, trepidation.

Afraid: Adjective. Feeling fear; filled with apprehension: afraid to go. Feeling regret, unhappiness, or the like. Feeling reluctance, unwillingness, distaste. Synonyms: scared, fearful, disquieted, apprehensive, timid, timorous.

In many English versions of the Bible, the words fear and afraid are often used interchangeably.

But in the original languages they often have different meanings and should not be interchangeable. For example, a commonly used Hebrew word for fear in the Old Testament is yārā which has a few different meanings. Sometimes it means the kind of fear that is akin to honor, respect, and awe (ie: “the fear of the Lord.”) Other times it means to frighten, terrify or intimidate. Those are two very different meanings of the word fear that should create two very different responses in the believer’s life.

Look up these following verses. Record the differences you notice in how the word fear is used. What do you discover about fear as it relates to the storms, and the broken pieces in your life?

  • Joshua 24:14
  • Psalm 56:3
  • Psalm 112:7
  • John 14:27
  • Romans 8:15

UNBROKEN Journal Questions:

  1. In your own words, what is the difference between the words fear and afraid?
  2. How can this difference help you better handle the broken pieces of your life and get a better perspective of your future?
  3. What worries you about releasing fear and embracing trust, patience, or forgiveness?

My God is faithful and trustworthy. I have no reason to doubt or fear.

Truth Statement®

The truth is fear never really leaves. We have to learn to step forward into the unknown, full of courage, even if we are afraid. Believing there will be hope and healing on the other side.

With Grace & Grit,

~Raychel

P.S Don’t forget to leave a comment and tell me what you think before you leave, thanks!

Raychel Perman is a Certified Life & Business Coach, Speaker, Author, and Co-Founder of RAYMA Team, LLC. She is the Co-host of the She Who Overcomes™ Podcast and is funny, wise, and tells it like it is. Raychel shares her story of overcoming trauma and living with mental health challenges to inspire others to believe that the broken pieces of their past can lead to beauty, strength, and new beginnings.

Learn more about Raychel here.

Editors Note: At the writing of this blog post we are in the processing of formatting and editing the 2nd edition of my 30 day Bible study for women, Unbroken. In honor of the occasion I will be releasing blog posts for Summer Series that come directly from the book. If you want to be the first to know when the release happens- join our VIP email list by CLICKING HERE (and get 7 free audios to help you create a stronger mindset as our gift!)