10 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me a Decade Ago

Do you ever think about the things you wish someone had told you a decade ago, or when you were 20, or even last year? I do. In fact, I think it might be the basis of my next book. A book full of wisdom and hard-earned lessons that the me a decade ago would have killed for. I can see it on store shelves now… Tips and Advice That I Wish Someone Had Told Me 10 Years Ago or Random thoughts from the mind of an unlikely CEO. Yeah, the title needs work. But the sentiment rings true. Let’s start with the first 10.

10 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me

1- Always grieve the things you lose in your life. When you lose a relationship, a friendship, a job, or a dream, you must feel it. Grief won’t die just because you try and bury it. You bury it alive. And just like all things you bury alive- they will come back to haunt you.

2- You will never be 100% ready to build your business. The timing will never be perfect. The risk will never be small. Just start. You will Google your way through it.

3- It’s OK to question your faith when life seems unfair or too much. This doesn’t make you a bad Christian. It makes you human. It will build your empathy for others who will walk similar paths.

4- Other people’s opinions of you do not pay your bills.

5- Keep reading all the books. Listen to all the podcasts. Watch the lectures. Take the classes. Learn. And then learn some more. Life is better when you are not ignorant to the world around you.

6- Divorce is not the unpardonable sin. It is not the end of the story. Not by a long shot. Redemption comes when you least expect it.

7- Your capacity to forgive is bigger than you realize. That is not a weakness. It’s a gift.

8- Don’t be surprised at the relationships and people who will not be in your life a decade from now. You will not see the destruction coming but you will survive.

9- Joy comes from deep inside you. And it is deeper and more long lasting than happiness. Look for the things that spark joy and hold on to them.

10- Your passion and your calling are not mutually exhaustive. Sometimes you must pay the bills. That is not failure.

What would be advice you would give yourself a decade ago? Let me know if the comments below. Who knows maybe your tip could show up in my book someday 😉

With grace & grit,


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Just Start: How to Begin When You Don’t Have a Plan

Just last week, right in the middle of reading Beth Moore’s descriptive and rolling words from her new book, Chasing Vines, I heard a message roll across my heart, “Just start.” The words on the page had nothing to do with procrastination so I just ignored the message and tried to keep reading. I just wanted to find a little calm in the chaos of the morning. But I couldn’t concentrate on the words that usually captivate me! I just kept hearing, “Just start.”

Now, I’m a woman of faith and I believe that God was trying to send me a message that morning. Persistently. So I wrote the words on the margin of the page I was on, closed the book, and walked downstairs to my computer and started.

Start what? Good question.

I’m not even sure I know the answer to that question exactly yet. What I do know is I am supposed to start writing again. To just start sounds like an awfully vague assignment if you ask me. I would like more details and next steps if I’m being honest. A plan. Write about what? To who? How often? When?

But God gave me none of those details.

I guess I’m just going on a journey.

And really that might be the biggest hurdle of an endeavor, the starting. I’ve noticed that pattern in my life in many seasons both personally and professionally. I’m a dreamer. Creating ideas, recipes, and products is my jam. I start projects. I rarely finish them. I’m not great at the follow through.

I think its something about the starting feeling unsafe to me. Ideas are safe. Dreams are protected. No harm. No foul.

But once you start all bets are off. Nothing is safe. Nothing is protected. Things can get broken. And even though you chart a course you can’t always control where you end up. Storms knock you off course. Redirection is the name of the game and resilience is your prize.

Just start.

My husband often says that the journey is more important than the destination. Turns out you can’t go on a journey if you refuse to open your front door and just start. Will I stumble and trip on my way out the door? Probably. Will I see the path clearly ahead of me? Probably not. Will I still go? Absolutely.

This is my journey… welcome to it.


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