10 Ways to Build Your Confidence, Immediately.

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Confidence is the key to feeling great in your own skin, reaching your wildest dreams, and creating a life that feels successful to you. But most of us still struggle with feeling confident. Maybe it is because we think confidence can only be built by setting massive boundaries or doing deep soul work. Of course, that is necessary sometimes. The good news is you can also build your confidence with fun and easy daily action steps. These 10 fun and easy action steps will build your confidence – no therapy session required!

Smile at everyone you meet for one day.

People are sadder than you realize, and a smile can literally improve someone’s day- and it’s guaranteed to boost your confidence because its fun and easy.

Get a new haircut.

It is time for the pandemic hair to go. If your city is coming out of lockdown- get thee to the salon! Even if it’s just a trim you’ll feel so much better!

Create a confidence playlist.

Music is a great mood booster! Make a specific playlist just for confidence boosting and pack that playlist full of tunes that lift your mood and get your booty shaking.

Paint a room in your home.

Your environment is more important than you think. Pick a bright color or a fun wallpaper you have been nervous to pull the plug on and go for it! If you are renting look for removable wallpaper. We did our closet with one I found at Target. It has been over a year and still looks great!

Create a “Things I’m Good At” List to boost confidence!

Make a list of 5 qualities or skills you have that you rock at. Toot your own horn, girl!

Create a collage or dream board.

Get creative and make a collage or dream board of the 50 things you want to accomplish in your lifetime. Put those dreams on paper where they can inspire you every day.

Buy a new plant.

Give it a name, talk to it, feed it, and water it. Taking care of something builds your confidence and teaches you you to be gentle and caring. If you are nervous buy a cactus.

Stand up straight and look forward when you walk.

Your body language will convey confidence even if you do not feel like it. Bonus points for making eye contact with the people you pass by.

Celebrate your wins.

Write down three things that went well today. And do it every day. Be your own cheering section.

 Clean up your social media.

Unfollow accounts that destroy your confidence. Even if it is a friend or a family member. Your social media is your home- you decide who comes in and what they can do there.

A lack of confidence will cause you to sabotage your best efforts at success and hate the skin you are in. And soul work, while necessary, takes time. Struggle no more! Use these 10 fun and easy ways to build your confidence, immediately!

With grace & grit,


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How to Recognize & Deal with Burnout as a Woman Business Owner

Burnout is caused by excessive or prolonged stress that eventually causes emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion. Unchecked burnout can lead to a mental health crisis and physical health problems And, women report symptoms of burnout at a higher rate than men. Because burnout is gradual, and does not happen overnight, you can easily miss the early signs However, if you are a woman business owner and you catch it early, you can do something about it.

According to a Gallop study conducted in January 2020, burnout is reaching crisis levels for full time workers.

“Nearly 7,500 full-time employees found that 23% of employees reported feeling burned out at work very often or always, while an additional 44% reported feeling burned out sometimes. That means about two-thirds of full-time workers experience burnout on the job.”

“Employee Burnout Main Causes” Gallup

That is a huge amount of the workforce! And that was before the world experienced a global pandemic. I’m sure the numbers are skyrocketing! You can deal with burnout if you recognize the early warning signs. But many women are not aware of how their bodies deal with stress and cannot recognize the signals.

How to Recognize Burnout

If burnout is caused by prolonged stress, then the solution is to deal better with your stress. Your body will give you clues if the stress levels has become unmanageable. These are some symptoms to look for.

  • Mental exhaustion
  • Unmotivated (especially if you were easily motivated in the past)
  • Critical or cynical thinking or behavior
  • Increase irritation or irritability with customers, clients, or staff
  • Using unhealthy coping mechanisms to make yourself feel better (food, alcohol, shopping, binge watching Netflix, etc.)
  • Unexplained headaches, stomachaches, or bowel problems

If you said yes to 2 or more of these symptoms, it is time to tackle the coming burnout. And quickly.

“People who used to be happy, motivated, friendly, and engaging become withdrawn, cranky, and disengaged from coworkers and clients or patients, as a result of prolonged work stress and the resulting burnout.”

Susan Biali Haas M.D.

Dealing with Burnout as a Woman Business Owner

There are three steps you can take if you are a business owner dealing with burnout. They are not hard, but they might feel drastic. But your life and business depend on your acting quickly. Here is how.

1. Celebrate Your victories

We can get tunnel vision in the day-in day-out tasks of building a business. That habit will lead to burnout very quickly. You must celebrate your victories. Especially the small ones that seem like they could be failures. For example, you sold two products when your goal was to sell 20. Celebrate those 2 sales! It will keep you excited and motivated instead of burnt out.

2. Take Time Off

Women Business Owners often forget that taking time off is critical to avoid burnout. You can’t keep your nose to the grindstone and expect to not feel burnout eventually. Get in the habit of taking time off and blocking vacation time on your calendar. Even if you don’t go anywhere. You need to take your eyes off your business once in awhile and recharge.

3. Set Work Hours

One of the first things I have my coaching clients do is set business hours. So many of them are working way too much or too sporadic to see any progress. There is no right amount to work. The magic is in the consistent work hours. Once those hours are set and adhered too, you can create better boundaries around your life and business.

Burnout is common. But it does not have to cause emotional, mental, or physical health problems if you recognize it early. Know the symptoms so you are aware of what burnout looks like. And, if you recognize the signs of burnout choose to deal with it quickly. Celebrate your victories, take time off, and set those work hours and you will be able to recognize and deal with burnout early!

With grace and grit,

~ Raychel

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