How to Create More Inner Peace in Your Life

I love the word “Peace.” It’s one of those words that makes you want to take a deep breath, breathe it out slowly, and just relax. It instantly takes me away to quiet moments spent alone after the kiddos are in bed for the night. Or, to a sandy white beach by the ocean where I am sipping a fruity drink and doing nothing but soaking up the sun.  No troubles, no burdens, no deadlines, no agenda…just peace.

The word peace has a lot of different meanings.

One of my favorite definitions is “a state of tranquility or quiet.” (Merriam-Webster.com, 2021)

Tranquility. Quiet. Yes please! Quiet can seem impossible when you have a busy household full of young children. Peace feels beyond your reach when you are an ambitious career woman climbing the corporate ladder. And tranquility is practically non-existent if you are juggling both at the same time.

       Something I’m learning lately, is that I need to create tranquility and quiet in my heart and soul no matter my circumstances. Even when life is chaotic. Ancient Wisdom tells us that God promises peace and quiet when worries flood our mind. But it’s up to us to tap into this promise. We need to intentionally create space for peace in our lives.

That means I need to know what gives me peace in the midst of fighting children, looming deadlines, and frazzled emotions. I should be aware of what activities restore my inner tranquility and what destroys it. Understanding how stress and anxiety feel and manifest in my body helps me to seek peace before I spiral into frustration and overwhelm.

Things bringing me peace lately:

Coming up with your own list of calm and tranquil activities is a must!

These things keep peace close at hand on the hard days when escaping to the ocean is out of the question. For a few quiet moments I can create peace in the midst of chaos. No agenda. No deadlines. Just me and the turtle doves and a few deep breaths.

With Grace & Grit,

~Raychel


     

Raychel Perman is a Certified Life & Business Coach, Speaker, Author, and Co-Founder of RAYMA Team, LLC. She is the Co-host of the She Who Overcomes™ Podcast and is funny, wise, and tells it like it is. Raychel shares her story of overcoming trauma and living with mental health challenges to inspire others to believe that the broken pieces of their past can lead to beauty, strength, and new beginnings. 

Raychel has a Bachelors of Science in Psychology and Christian Counseling from Liberty University. She is a licensed Esthetician with over two decades of experience in the beauty industry. Raychel, her husband Josh, and her three children make their home in North Dakota.

       

The Problem I’m Chewing On: Healing, Scars, and Restoration

I take a problem and chew on it until all the flavor’s gone… and then I stick it in my hair.

Divine Secrets of The Ya-Ya Sisterhood.

I was thumbing through my first published Bible Study Unbroken* the other day and I came across Day 13 titled “Accepting the Scars.” As I read my words from 2016 I had to chuckle. I had no clue what was coming, or how the message of Unbroken would play out in my life when I filed for divorce one year later. Truth be told when I wrote the book I was in one of the rare happy seasons of my first marriage. But, three months after we published, I would give my wedding ring back and ask for a separation.

This is one of the pitfalls of being a writer.

You get to read past works and words you wrote with the 20/20 vision of hindsight. And that can be a good thing… but sometimes its bad, ugly, and cringe worthy. I had no idea what embracing the cracks that are making me whole (Unbroken’s tag line) would mean to me five years later.

I still believe that message. Maybe even more now than I did in 2016. I’ve embraced my broken pieces, re-built from the ashes, and let the cracks of my life become sources of beauty and strength. What I thought was going to be a marriage restoration story took a sharp turn and became a ME restoration story. It wasn’t going to play out like Eat, Pray, Love. More like Midwest mediocre. But, I found myself in the rubble. I found my purpose and passion in that mess. Discovering strength I didn’t know I had; and, teaching my kids that our choices matter even when they are hard.

New wounds came. Old scars were revealed. And beauty grew in the most unlikely places.

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Here’s what I wrote back in 2016…

After a storm rages through our lives, we are left with broken pieces. When we choose to accept the process of restoration those wounds start to heal. Sometimes after a wound heals a scar remains. Scars are reminders. Sometimes scars are on the outside; but, more often than not, your scars will not be visible to the naked eye. Your deepest wounds are rarely on the surface.

I can’t tell you how many times I have people tell me, “I had no idea you were even struggling,” or “I didn’t realize your marriage was that broken,” when they hear my story. When I look back at pictures during the worst seasons of my life I can see the light is gone from my eyes. On the outside things looked OK. I didn’t look sick. The truth is, when you look at someone who has overcome the odds, you will not always see the scars on her body. They are on her mind and heart.

Scars are reminders.

They remind us of why we are the way we are. Scars tell us of who we’ve been. They remind us of the lessons we have learned on life’s journey. The wounds they cover remind us of the things and people we’ve lost. They remind us of our courage and God’s faithfulness. Scars are a reminder that even the deepest wounds will eventually heal.

We have to get really good at accepting every chapter of our story, even the dark ones, because this is how we comfort our sisters, mothers, daughters, and best friends. When we can share the truth about the scars in our lives we give another woman courage. When we bravely share our weaknesses, another woman find the strength to take one step forward into the light. We comfort others with the same comfort we have been given.

It’s time to appreciate and celebrate those hard earned wounds. Those battle scars are important. Your scars are proof that we can all do hard things. Don’t hide them. Don’t pretend they aren’t there. Embrace the scars. Embrace the broken places and the healed areas of your life. Your vulnerability inspires others.

with Grace & Grit,

~Raychel

*The Unbroken Bible study has been retired, However you can still find it in our Faith Coaching Bundle from RAYMA Team, LLC. Click here to find out more!

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